If you are a manager, when you see the words:
on your calendar, what thoughts creep into your mind?
Do you look forward to them or dread them?
If you dread them, you’re not alone. However, if you are one of the few who DO look forward to them, my next question is:
Does the person on the receiving end also look forward to them?
There is a simple
effective and easy
You know you’re on track if the
evaluation is simply a formality.
If there are surprises
something is wrong.
Linked In has proven itself to be wonderful forum to connect and share with other people in business. I asked for feedback from one of the groups about THIS blog site. I asked what they would want to see on this site that would enhance the coaching and training they are currently offering their team.
One especially thorough request was:
I would like core competencies building modules such as:
I consider these topics “the good stuff”. These are the topics, when managed well, move individuals, teams and whole companies forward.
I have found the most effective way to “get to the good stuff” is by way of including YOU in the process.
The two key words being:
You might be thinking, “Just give me the information” and if you are, this post may not be for you. However, if you agree with and have experienced the concept that people don’t take advice you give 98% of the time, this post may be of interest to you.
So, I will start this process by asking you questions. There is a method to this, so post your responses and we’ll get this show started!
Imagine what a day would look like with the basics of these skills in place
and running like a well oiled machine.
Take a moment and allow the vision to reveal itself.
What do you see?
How does it feel?
Next, I want you to try this on for size.
What would it look like to include your team or team member in the process of developing a good way to, for example, manage conflict?
I’d love your thoughts.
I love a good day off.
For me, a “good day off” is when I can relax every part of my being. My breathing feels deeper, the sky seems bluer … you get the idea.
We made a point of getting out of the house early one morning to take a day trip to the ocean. Before we left, I asked:
“What intention would you like to set for our trip today?”
He thought for a few seconds and with a mischievous look on his face, he replied:
I laughed and thought…buffalo? OK. Buffalo. What the heck! That’s so like him. A good challenge. Innocent fun.
I was game (so to speak).
It doesn’t matter that we are on the mid-Atlantic coast, where the buffalo are famous for not roaming.
We drove over two hours to the beach. Our conversation was light and fun. I kept my eyes open for buffalo. He kept his eyes on the GPS.
The ride was beautiful. We found a rather crowded beach for a Tuesday. Both of us prefer a less crowded venue, so we found a good lunch spot and thought about how we’d spend the rest of the day.
After lunch, we headed north for the state park. We walked on the uncrowded beach, examining shells and rocks and the many horseshoe crabs. We talked to the fisher folk. Spot was the popular catch of the day.
We learned that most people just group all gulls together. They had no idea what kind of gull we were seeing.
Just when we were about to call it quits on the survey, we asked one more person and bingo!
The Napoleon Gull.
Our day on the beach was winding down. We walked back to the car, deciding to take a slightly different route back. We felt feeling confident we couldn’t go far wrong with the GPS.
Once we got through the commercial beach roads and their outlet stores, our ride home was just as scenic as before. We saw lots of thriving green fields, produce stands, beautiful clouds, and old farm houses.
We drove by a large field that had a giant irrigation system on wheels. It nearly spanned the length of the field and was made of metal. When you approach one from behind (which I had never done), and you use your imagination, it looks like a dinosaur skeleton at the Smithsonian. Kind of. When I saw that, I (ever the optimist) thought…Well, if we don’t see a buffalo, at least we have seen a ” dinosaur”.
And it was just after that thought that we rounded the corner only to see… a bison farm.
In the background beyond the fence stood not one, but several buffalo large and small. Who knew?
You put them out there and “hold a space” for them without any expectation or forcing or figuring.
It’s always a good idea to go about your day with a your antennae up.
Have you seen your buffalo today?
Been exploring a lot lately. Not the typical adventurous Indiana Jones-type explorations…like exploring a cave on the side of a mountain in Peru or diving in the coral reefs just off the coast of Australia. Nope. These are the “road less traveled” kind.
I have a ritual that I strive to honor every morning.
I consciously set a daily intention. Examples: I set my intention to be open to the possibilities around _________ (fill in the blank). I intend to stay in a joyful state of mind all day and see what effect it has on my day. Thing is, I used to forget to listen and look for the positive nods and messages from the universe in response to the daily intention. This all changed one day.
I was just about finished with the foundational education I have chosen for my Life and Business Coaching certification. I wondered, “What’s next? How will I make the leaps into the next levels of my business? How will I keep the level of joy that is so important to me as I increase my responsibilities? What if it doesn’t go as I am envisioning?” …. yadda, yadda, yadda. Babble, babble, babble.
Any of this negative self doubt monkey mind talk sound familiar?
A saying came back to me: “It is always darkest before the dawn.”
That may be a tad dramatic, but for grins, indulge me a moment and you will see the brightness that comes with the “dark side.” By dark side, I mean:
I decided to get closer to my dark side. Was it real? Or just the smoke and mirrors that my ego likes to play with from time to time?
Armed with my daily intention of getting to the truth of these matters, a new awareness came over me. I realized that a recent series of events were the positive nods and messages in response to my intention.
My mentor coach asked me:
“If money were not an issue, would you still be coaching?”
This got me to thinking about all of the things that I enjoy in life…
One of my sisters read an article to me about a man who has patchworked several part-time jobs to keep his income level in a happy place and found an inner happiness that took him by surprise.
I found that taking a part-time job that brought me in closer contact with people on a day-to-day basis made me happy. It wasn’t so much the extra cash, but the feeling of community that did that for me.
A friend, an entrepreneur, sent me a blog post that she was thinking about publishing and wanted another set of impartial eyes to review it. It was basically about reinventing oneself. More specifically, it was about how to set yourself apart from the others, who may offer something similar business-wise. You set yourself apart by offering a unique value.
:: A positive nod ::
I very unexpectedly ran into two former co-workers …who are now successful entrepreneurs. I stumbled into one of their shops. I had coached them a few years ago while we worked for the same company. They took the time to thank me for the lessons learned, which they are now applying to their businesses.
:: a positive nod ::
These “events” are all around us. It’s actually amazing (and quite fun) to see what what you get when you pay attention…because when you do, the universe will happily dance with you and your explorations.
You just have to tap into your awareness.
These nods and messages have been what I needed to help me move forward into the brightness and away from the dark side.
And back to the question my mentor coach asked me, in case you were wondering …. the answer is yes.