From my own experience, when the inner judge and critic is around, the things I want most will not find their way to me and seem to, in fact, become worse, bigger and/or more annoying.
It wasn’t until I understood how to DETACH from the inner critic that my inner Self/Spirit could do it’s thing, which is to shepherd my wants, dreams and desires to me. My inner critic blocks. My inner Self allows me to move in the direction of my vision, dreams and wants.
Sound simple? That depends on you and how you approach it. The ticket for me is awareness. When I observe my habits of self talk, I can then begin to dismantle and detach like leaves detaching from the trees in autumn.
The practice goes like this:
– awareness in the moment the inner critic speaks up
– compassion for your whole self as you become aware
Since Autumn has arrived, I’ve been using it as a vehicle to practice any or all of the practices listed above. My husband has been teasing about my “compulsion” for going outside to sweep or rake up the leaves because there are so many more to come down. What he does not realize is that I am intentional about these leaf sessions. I call it Leaf Sweeping Therapy (LST). And there are so many benefits:
I spend about 15 to 20 minutes to sweep and then I can go back to my desk feeling very refreshed.
If my Ego were in the mix, it would judge the time I take away from my desk and thoughts about what to make for dinner, do I need to make a quick run to the grocery store?, why didn’t I exercise longer this morning, I’ll be sorry for having that ice cream last night, etc, etc etc and before I know it, I cannot get my arms around what I’m doing at my desk for my clients or employer.
Once I unhook from that kind of nonsense, I became a much happier, more productive person. The practice has served me so well, that I’m curious to see how it looks when there are no more leaves to sweep. I know I can shovel snow in the winter but how about the spring and summer? Stay tuned and find out.
In the meanwhile, how do you detach? What do you notice when you do?
Elizabeth Gilbert is the author of Eat, Pray, Love and Committed. She’s also a spectacular speaker, which you’ll realize when you visit TED (Technology Entertainment Design), the website with “ideas worth spreading.” TED offers over a thousand videotaped “talks to stir your curiosity.”
TED began in 1984 with a conference. The annual conference still continues, and I daresay that its web site has grown exponentially in popularity.
So, on TED, you’ll watch famous people as well as people you’ve never heard of on all kinds of topics.
So what I love about this particular talk is how Gilbert recounts poet Ruth Stone’s description of creative inspiration. It’s as if, she says, a “thunderous train of air” is blowing through the landscape, and you can see it and feel it. And if you don’t catch it (write it down) while it’s in your backyard, it’s going to blow away to the next artist, writer, poet.
If you are a manager, when you see the words:
on your calendar, what thoughts creep into your mind?
Do you look forward to them or dread them?
If you dread them, you’re not alone. However, if you are one of the few who DO look forward to them, my next question is:
Does the person on the receiving end also look forward to them?
There is a simple
effective and easy
You know you’re on track if the
evaluation is simply a formality.
If there are surprises
something is wrong.
This morning I stumbled upon an article about a mystery shopping experience written by Garrett Boone, the co-founder of The Container Store. His experiences in this article echo 98% my shopping experiences. Garrett Boone’s mystery shopping is a real window onto what’s actually happening with customer experience and customer service.
Here is the article from DallasNews.com:
After I read that article, I wanted to learn more about him.
What excites me about coaching is that it is a direct and simple yet powerful way to introduce people to their own life skill-set and process. It shows them how to engage those skills to bring order, effectiveness, satisfaction, and happiness to their lives.
These are skills and processes that can inform and effect every facet of ones life, both personal and professional. They are not complicated, and everybody possesses them, but often people don’t realize they have this “power.” I love introducing them and then watching the positive ripple effect.